A few months ago I would've never been posting on a subject like this. I'm still kind of hesitant on talking about this subject because I don't want people thinking I am writing this post for ulterior motives.
I love having this blog because it allows me to write freely and speak my mind.
Well being by myself the past few months and have lead me to become the independent girl I once was and it's opened my mind to a lot of things.
A year ago I was with someone that I thought I would eventually marry which is SUCH a crazy thought to have now that I am looking back. I hope I don't offend anyone by any of the things I am about to say, and I want to make it clear that I am not at all against relationships and getting married at an early age.
1. I am allowed to freely make my own decisions during these early years of my life.
I don't have to base my decisions off anyone else, and obviously, I was doing a lot of that when I was in a relationship.
I learned while being in a relationship that I couldn't be selfish and I had to take it the other person into perspective as well. In all of the different situations I was going through, I had to take someone else into consideration as well. Obviously, it's a lot easier to make decisions when you don't have someone else in your life.
2. I am getting to know myself without anyone else in the way.
I am learning about all of my flaws and all of the different things I love about myself.
3. I am able to travel freely and not miss my significant other.
I have a ton of traveling plans this upcoming year and frankly, it's a lot easier acting on these plans when I don't have to miss a significant other.
4. I'm able to love myself before I love anyone else.
I believe this is the most important reason of all that I love being by myself in my early twenties. Every time I got into a relationship in the past, I was not at all feeling confident about myself and I had many insecurities I had to deal with.
As a human being, I'll always have insecurities but the way I dealt with them back then were negative. I was relying on someone else to make me happy, and that isn't fair for anybody.
So for now, I'll be working on myself and making me happy. I am in no rush to find anyone and I want to remain independent, even when I get into my next relationship, whenever that may be. All I know is that I have to be happy with myself first before I add anyone else in my life.
Is there anything that I said that you agree or disagree with?
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