I was really motivated to write a post today about long distance relationships once again, but this time I wanted to talk about all of the people who have been saying negative or not so positive things to me.
None of my friends have bluntly come out and said anything harsh, but some of them haven't been quite as supportive either. I can understand this as well because none of my friends have to do long distance, which is great for all of them but my situation is different.
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I have a boyfriend who is extremely motivated and inspired to travel the world and I am so lucky. One day I'll get to travel the world with him and that's a pretty awesome thing to say.
I know all my other LDR readers are going to be able to relate to the things I am about to say. It's quite sad that you'll have to relate because you would expect your family and friends to be more supportive when they aren't. I might have some friends that will read this post and be upset that I called them out, but it's necessary for me to say something.
I should probably be more confrontational when someone tells me something that bothers me, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings like mine have been.
Okay, so mostly all of my friends know my boyfriend and I are long distance now.
The below are about 80% of the feedback I have received:
“Aren't you going to miss him though?”
“God, I could never do LDR.”
“Long distance relationships suck.”
“You should just break up with him now.”
“It's not going to work.”
“He's leaving you, so he must not love you.”
That last one was from somebody in my FAMILY which was very hurtful. The fact was I was leaving to and moving to Chicago. So do I not love him either? Haha.
I almost wish the people who had negative thoughts didn't even say anything.
What I would say to my friends in an LDR would be COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. I am so extremely supportive to everyone and I am always trying to help others. It's funny because I rather get my feelings hurt before someone else was hurt. So when someone says something crappy to me, I just take it.
Now this is what I would say to someone in an LDR:
“You will miss him but this is beneficial for both of you guys. You guys both get to exceed in life and fulfill each of your dreams. You'll be apart for awhile but it is nothing compared to how long of a life you guys have together.”
Simple. Easy. Takes less than 30 seconds to say all of that. Yet it is impossible for some people. A lot of people will NEVER have to experience LDR. Good for you. My relationship will never get boring or ever feel like we are in a rut. I get to travel to a different continent and experience life changing moments.
Thankfully, I've met people that are in a successful LDR from my blog and even when I moved to Chicago. I can admit back in high school when people were in LDR from online relationships or in LDR in the beginning of college, I thought it was doomed to fail. Who am I to make that judgment though?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and have been very happy with a few minor and sometimes major bumps in the road, but what relationship doesn't have that?
I know many of my readers are in LDR and I am happy that we can all relate and support each other. Frankly, if I didn't have you guys I would probably feel a lot more lonely since the majority of my friends aren't supportive.
I have a long journey ahead of me but I am proud to say I am so happy with where I am now in my life. I am about to start school and also about to find out if I'm getting a dream job of mine. It will be my first “Big Girl” job and will enable me to advance high in the company. I'm eating healthy and working out every day and making great friends. I have never loved my life more than I do now and I am completely fine with bragging and saying I am so extremely happy with my life.
Thanks to everyone who has been so positive and supportive throughout my whole journey. Whether it be health, getting fit, relationships, my personal life, school, all of it.
I feel like I've made the greatest friends I have from my blog alone. =)